Losing a pregnancy, baby, or child is an unimaginable heartbreak—one that no family should have to navigate alone. In Hawai‘i, where community and ‘ohana (family) are at the heart of our way of life, we honor the depth of your grief and offer support to help you through this journey.

This page provides resources for families who have experienced loss, including emotional support, support groups, and connections to professionals who understand the complexities of grief. Whether you are seeking counseling, community support, or ways to honor your loved one, we hope these resources offer comfort and guidance as you find your path forward.

You are not alone. Your grief is valid. And we are here to hold space for you.

First Steps After Loss 

When you have just experienced the loss of a pregnancy, baby or child, it is natural to feel overwhelmed. Here are some immediate steps you may find helpful:

Give Yourself Space to Grieve

Take as much time as you need to process what has happened. It’s okay to cry, sit in silence, or simply be. There is no “right way” to grieve, and there is no rush.

Notify Loved Ones

If you feel comfortable, let close family or friends know. They may want to support you in practical ways, such as bringing meals, helping with other children, or offering emotional comfort.

Honor Your Child

Consider creating a moment of remembrance. You might name your baby, take photos, or keep a special item like a hospital blanket or bracelet. 

Contact a Trusted Support Network

Seek immediate help from a counselor, spiritual leader, or a friend who can offer a listening ear

Resources 

Pacific Birth Collective's Grief Circles 

Hospice Maui 

What You Might Be Feeling

Grief after losing a child can feel overwhelming, but all emotions are valid. You may experience:

• Shock and Numbness – Feeling disconnected or in disbelief.
• Anger or Guilt – Questioning “why” or feeling responsible.
• Sadness and Yearning – Intense longing for your baby.
• Moments of Peace – Over time, healing will come in small steps.

If you are feeling unable to cope, please reach out to someone immediately. You deserve support.

 

Resources & Community Support 

You are part of a community that deeply values family and connection. There are organizations, groups, and professionals dedicated to helping you through this journey:

Local Support Groups

• Hawai‘i Perinatal Grief Circle

Monthly gatherings to connect with other families who have experienced similar losses.

Bereavement Services

• Hospice Maui – Offers grief counseling for families who have experienced a loss.

• Kapi‘olani Medical Center – Bereavement specialists available for counseling and support.

Spiritual & Cultural Guidance

• Local Faith Leaders – Many churches, temples, and other places of worship offer comfort and spiritual support.

• Kupuna Guidance – Traditional Hawaiian practices like ho‘oponopono can bring healing and peace.

Ways to Honor & Remember Your Baby

Creating rituals or keepsakes can help you cherish your baby’s memory:

• Plant a tree or native plant in their honor.

• Light a candle or build a small altar at home.

• Write a letter or journal your feelings and memories.

• Participate in remembrance ceremonies, such as the annual Wave of Light on October 15th.